Are you Perfect?

Hello lovely ladies,

It occured to me some time recently, how immobilised I have been in the past by ‘perfection’ and the desire to get everything in my life just right. Now, there is nothing wrong with mediocrity, that certainly has it’s place somewhere in world but not in my world. The problem is while I seek perfection I am often rendered immobilised - I do nothing out of fear of failure! So, essentially, it’s either doing something perfectly, or not at all.

Recently, I was at a presenters course, learning extensive skills on how to be a great presenter. One exercise we had to do, was to practise introducing ourselves. I had practised it so many times in my mind and out loud, I became a nervous mess. Finally it was my turn, I tried so hard to get it right, I actually got it horribly wrong, completely messed it up. As I sat after, waiting for our group to finish, I felt tears of imperfection well up and I quickly exited the room to gain my composure. Why was I so upset about something so simple? I sat with the feeling for a while and decided to let the emotions bubble up, when they were ready, they would reveal what I needed to learn.

A few days later, my last day in fact, we had to do a presentation I was not prepared for. In fact, I didn’t even open my books to write anything down - I knew that I knew my stuff, I am very passionate about my content. I loosely followed the structure of the presentation and something happened… I had completely let go of my attachment to the presentation being ‘perfect’, I completely let go of the fears I had about being liked or disliked, or being good enough and I let the words flow…

My speech was the best ‘off the cuff’ presentation I had done to date. And further more, I dared to get out of my comfort zone and do something a little controversial and out spoken - I was being my whole self, Real and Raw and loved what come out the trust for myself.

As a International Performance Coach, I see women commonly suffer from self esteem issues and we often let our fears rule who we are and immobilise us. What I experienced was a surrender to my fear of failure…. When you let go of what you ‘assume’ other people are thinking about you, when you actualise your accomplishments and ‘OWN WHO YOU ARE’, you set yourself free to simply be the DIAMOND you REALLY are and MAGIC HAPPENS! I know when I push and force something, I always come unstuck. And when I simply trust and have faith, the immobilised becomes mobile, the fear becomes courage and the ‘how to’ reveals itself….

What emotions do you need to let bubble up and out?
Are you fighting a battle to succeed somewhere in your life and fail to hit the mark?
What would happen if you just let go of the ‘push and pull of perfection’ and just set about ‘DOING’?

So how do you let go of attachment and the desire for perfection?
You realise you are already perfect as you are! A continuous drive forward to become a better version of the already perfect you, is most desireable because there, is where you are always growing and expanding who you are.

I dare you to practise letting go. I dare you to practise being already perfect. I dare you to stop what you are doing right now that is ‘not’ working for you and do something different. Only then will you find your truth and become mobile… moving toward your dreams. Seek and ye shall find. Accept and you shall be.

Yours with blessings,
Janelle Manton