CLUB CLUB CLUB…

CLUB Brisbane is the newest way for you to connect with other women, expand your mindset and enjoy a Secret Vault environment that nurtures every womans needs, their individuality and their desire to ‘break out’ in a safe caring environment.  If you haven’t been yet then I encourage you to do something a little different and come see us with a few girlfriends in tow, alternatively, come alone and meet some new fabulous friends.   Every CLUB is different, themed and full of surprises… My plan is to expand CLUB around Australia and then the world, so all women have the opportunity to celeberate being  a woman first… CLUB is all about you and if you would like to discuss how you can get involved and expand CLUB in your city, then please contact me on 1300 88 69 82.  Much love and let’s contine to  be incredible women together. x

Once Upon a Time - Are your Stories slowly killing you?

How many stories have you heard of human beings overcoming horrific life threatening challenges that have them enriched and fulfilled at the end of the day? And how many stories have your told (including your own) that spread the word of despair, heart ache and misery?  We’ve all heard of stories where the victim turned the experience into something great and is now a crusader for that cause… Would they have been able to do so much good without the story to start with?  They say when the going gets tough, the tough get going but what does it really take to leave the past behind and live a new life of fulfilment?

With so many life stories of challenge, terror and sadness, how do you just pick up and move on?  I mean how can you do it?  We know we can’t change the past but living with it and immersed ‘in’ it doesn’t change it either….

The one thing I know as a Performance and Results Coach is that every person has a story to tell, it doesn’t matter how hard, horrible or tragic your story is compared to another, we all feel the same way about our stories in the end.

So doesn’t the experience of life, with its colourful stories become more normal than not? Because everyone has a story to tell, right? Do you know anyone who has no experiences to share, no story to tell?

Imagine for a moment, not having any stories to tell? How boring and meaningless would your life be?  I know there are stories you wish you never had to experience, some you wouldn’t wish upon your worst enemy, stories of abuse, loss, deceit, betrayal… but the fact is, they happened, they existed once upon a time and how you feel about those stories now, is the only thing you can change. So you can choose to continue to live with them (those woeful sad stories) or you can do what is necessary to change them, utilise them, forgive them, set yourself free and move forward being a better, stronger human being for it. Then you can live a full and enriched life with the lessons learnt. Anything less than that is a waste of a good story…

Easy for me to say you think?  Well maybe not, I too have stories that I have told but the difference is how I choose to now use them. You can use them to empower you and others or disempowered you and others.

Stories can take you down to the pits of despair or raise you up to where you can see the world is your oyster. Which do you choose?

You can clearly see what I have chosen by my actions and what I do for a living and it feels great standing on the shoulders of my perpetrators because the view is much grander and richer from here….

So my darling bud, what do you need to do to move out of the slump, away from your story?

The very first thing you need to do is accept your experiences and trust they have a grander purpose. It’s true that which does not kill us makes us stronger, so gets to being strong ASAP and accepts what it is you have experienced… No amount of wishing life was different will change the facts… The only things you can change are your perspective, and understand the grander purpose… Because there always grander purpose and lesson, especially for those who go looking for it.

How do you accept heinous crimes and hurtful moments?

Own it as part of who you are and most importantly, realise that everything happens for a reason and the reason is yours to learn. The key here is LEARN! Everything in life is a beautiful expression of what you can learn to enrich your life and most often, others around you. You can only change how you feel about your story and that is the only way you can set it free, then you can also accept it as part of your history.

A life of guilt, regret, anger and hurt only serve to take YOU down and as many people you can enrol into your story… because we all love to share bad news, right? Diseased negative emotions only hurt you in the long run. When you share and spread negative stories aren’t you attempting to get attention? Convincing someone else that your story is worse than theirs? Somehow justifying it or laying blame? Perhaps you are crying out for help?  If any of that sounds familiar, then it is time to do something about it.

The time to change and let go of the past, is now!

So here are the steps to letting go of your stories, the ones that do not serve to make your life better, grander and more fulfilled:

• Commit to doing something different than you’ve done before to let it go, realise there is a problem and be prepared for the next step…
• Accept that is in the past and there is nothing but your perspective that can change it, be real, it can’t hurt you anymore (but it will if you keep the story alive). What’s done is done, now let’s work together to change your feelings about the past
• Make a list of your feelings in regards to the events and write about each one - get it all out
• Allow the emotions to seep to the top, if you get emotional; allow yourself the chance to finally release it all… Up and out I say!
• Decide upon what you want to feel instead… you might want security, peace, independence, courage, power, strength, perseverance etc…
• Be brave for a few minutes and go down into the event this last time with the intentions of finding out what you are supposed to learn - there is always a reason that thing happened and until you understand the lesson, you will hang on to the emotion and let it control you. Learnings might sound like this: I know what it means to be courageous, I now know how to trust my intuition, I could never have been such a loving mother if that didn’t happen,I value myself first and foremost, they did the best they could and I know I am a survivor who is strong now…..
• Adopt the learnings as a belief you have with conviction. Repeat it and own it…
• Then plan what you want for your life instead now. How are you going to implement the learnings into your life? What are you going to do differently from now on, so much so, you can change the old behaviour? You might say I am never going to tell that story for the same reasons again, or you might do something that exercises your new found realisation of courage - something you’ve always wanted to do but didn’t, you might call your parents and make amends…. You decide and remember to make it about you, about your future and positive.
• Be prepared to forgive and then forget… That is true freedom

The ULTIMATE goal is to get to stage of GRATITUDE… Grateful your life is the way it is, filled with the experiences you have had, because you wouldn’t be who you are today otherwise..

The only thing in life that is real is today, so make it count. Stories are great and they serve a grand purpose, my caution is to use them wisely, only use the ones that empower you and leave the ones that bring you back down, behind… who needs them, right?

Now, if this sounds all too easy and you really don’t know how to move forward by yourself, then ask for help.  Do yourself a favour and decide to release your baggage today.  As an internationally experienced Performance and Lifestyle Coach, I can guarantee a fresh perspective on life and show you how you can easily move forward in your life - toward your dreams and aspirations. You deserve happiness, success and balance in life, filled with loving friends and family, right? So why wait a minute longer…

The longer we wait to let go of our ’stuff’ the more it costs you financially, emotionally, physically… and it spreads to all areas of your life.  There is no time like the present when it comes to your happiness and success… Call me today to discuss how I may help. This is what I do.

With much love and peace

Janelle Manton

Bliss Tip October

This months Bliss Tip is all about getting clean and ready for summer.  Summer is almost upon us and it’s time to prepare by taking care of your body.  When was the last time you took inventory of what you are putting into your body? When was the last time you truly committed to exercising and shaping up? And what are you doing that nurtures your body from the outside, as well as the inside?

Here are some simple tips to get started and well on your way to feeling and looking great this summer…

• Drink plenty of clean filtered water (up to 3 litres a day)
• Detox and give something up that is not serving your health (coffee, cigarettes, alcohol, candy)
• Alkalize your body and balance your inner PH  (lots of greens, no coffee, no alcolhol, dairy etc) read this great article from Vitale for more info on Body PH: http://vitaleblog.org/skin-care-diets/creating-an-alkaline-system
• Exercise 4 times a week
• Exfoliate your body skin at least once a week and moisturise with natural body butter or similar daily
• Condition your hair and use a face mask once a week
• Meditate and take some time out for you to regenerate your mind and soul

I trust these simple tips will get you on the road to looking forward to summer and feeling energised.  i’d love to hear from you and what you are committed to doing and giving up in readiness for bikini season.

Looking in the Mirror of Success?

How many times have you been in a situation that calls for you to look in the mirror, only to find the mirror is broken? You refuse to look at yourself for the answers but blame the world around you for what could have been stopped the moment you looked within. The blame game is no game at all…

What do I actually mean?  Well let’s suppose you are blamed for something that you feel you didn’t do and no matter how hard you try to defend your position you still get blamed. What then? How are these situations affecting your rate of Success? Your happiness? Your self esteem?

There are many times in life when things ‘happens’ to us and it’s a great time to really look in that proverbial mirror to see how what is happening, is a reflection of you or at least a part of you.  You see, nothing really happens to us, we create it, all of it.  So when the chips are down, look in the mirror and see what part of you is really at play. Every situation calls for you to reflect on the inside and own your part in the game that is going on around you. 

If you can imagine for a moment that you are the centre of the universe (and in some strange way you actually are), then doesn’t every situation call for your input? There is blame all around us, every day and so, the big question is: Are you the one pointing the finger or the person at the receiving end?  In any case both parties still need to look at themselves for the answers because there is always something to learn from every experience.

Whether this be the case in business or in your personal life, the only way to take full control of your life is by taking full responsibility for what ‘happens’ in it.  This was the case for me at a recent gathering with my family.  I was blamed for something I feel I had no part in but the truth be known, when I look closely at the other parties accusation, there was something in that for me ‘to get’ and I got it alright!  Now even though the accusation was incorrect, I could still look into the situation and gain some learning or knowledge that gave me insight into me.

It is said that perception is projection. So how you perceive something is how you are also projecting it to be.  That also means if you are projecting something out into the world, say like an opinion it is also only how you perceive it and not necessarily how anyone else may view it.  Is it yet another chance to look within?  There, inside of yourself, is where you find all the answers to life…..

So the good news is there is always something to learn, lessons come in a variety of shapes and colours and one of your greatest strengths is your ability to diffuse a situation by owning your part in it.

When it comes to being successful in what ever you choose to do, take a good look at how your beliefs and values are playing their part in holding you back. It could be time for an overhaul to get you doing more of what you really want in life…

So how do you do that? Even when you feel you did nothing wrong?

That’s the easy part.  Ask yourself the question, How is what is going on a reflection of how I really feel?  Identify with the part that you find most upsetting and see how that reflects your current situation or circumstance. If you feel uncomfortable or are in denial at all, here is where it will show up.  Become aware of how you feel and then act upon it.  Sometimes a quick phone call to the people involved can resolve and dissolve an issue before it gets out of hand.  There is quite often a misunderstanding or someone’s real feelings at the end of the blame game, so be open to ‘getting it’, understanding it and moving through it before all hell breaks loose.

A values checkin is always helpful and that is where a coach can guide you through to assist you in aligning more with what is impotant to you in life.

So what happens if you fail to see how the situation is a reflection of you or your true feelings or the Mirror is Broken?  Nothing happens but you may well continue to have these ’situations’ show up till you do understand what it is you need to learn.  Success comes to those who are most willing to be themselves, authenticity and by speaking your truth.  Life is like that and mother-nature is relentless when we need to learn something… It will keep showing up in all areas of your life and get bigger and bigger till you take the lessons and implement them by making changes to your life.

What are some of the keys to really understand this concept?

• Know yourself and be courageous enough to ask the hard question of yourself - How is this a reflection of me and how I feel?… You are a work in progress so be open to learning and looking within.
• Set clear boundaries. People will only treat you as you allow them, so with some effective communication and some ‘I feel’ statements you can have the kind of relationships you deserve with everyone in your life.
• Take the higher ground and stay out of someone else’s argument. If the other person has a vendetta against you, do not buy into their story, it could be about them and what they are projecting outward. Certainly reflect on how you are involved but do not put fuel on the fire by ‘getting into’ with them.
• Be compassionate with your understanding of the other person involved and try to see the world with their eyes, if only for a second. You may be surprised at what you see.
• Be open to learning something new at all times and even more willing to do something different to get a new and more positive outcome. There is always one waiting for you.

Success comes when you are clear about your intentions, what you want, how you show up and what you are willing to do to get it. Be your own best coach and when you have utilised all of your own resources, consider it time to get a coach to assist you. Gaining real clarity and opening the window within is easier for those who ask how.

I have been coaching for over 6 years and assist women to get what they want out of life. Be it more from their relationships, their careers or to have a fabulously loving relationship with yourself, I am here to help, so call and find out how coaching can help you. 1300 88 69 82