The Power of Eloquence

Eloquence is the powerful, elegant, forcible and effective use of language. It’s persuasive, inspiring and reflects quality and conviction.  Some might say that eloquence is a way of strikingly verbalising strong emotions in such a way to be influential.

You’ve heard the Queen deliver a speech right? She oozes eloquence as one would expect….

Eloquence is the graceful delivery of words that is fluid with a superior level of style and confidence.  Pronunciation is enhanced and there is an appreciation of a broad vocabulary and a comprehensive comprehension of language…

So why is Eloquence so important for a modern Goddess?

Well darling, have you ever met a beautiful and delightful woman, who walked smoothly, had incredible hair and was impeccably groomed, she stood with confidence and when she opened her mouth, you nearly fell over with offense?  This apparently graceful creature was loud, raucous, rough, she mumbled with slang oozing out of her mouth?

Your impression was shattered by the rude interruption of the mouth speaking and your ears ached… This negative impression is the reason why eloquence is vital to every Goddess. Eloquence is power. It’s influential and people listen to what you have to say, when you say it with style and meaningfulness.

When you couple speaking well, with grace and poise you have a winning formula for attraction and success. Having Grace is the one thing which certainly enhances your feminine strengths and appeal, and you have to know that speaking ‘like a lady’ is yet another way to become more sensual, more powerful, more confident and more HEARD by others.

Consider the gorgeous and delectable screen Goddesses of the past, very few other women surpass their beauty, grace, eloquence and poise.  When you see such women as Grace Kelly, Audrey Hepburn, Rita Hayworth, Faye Dunaway, Vivian Leigh, Katherine Hepburn (to name just a few), you see perfection in the female form, femininity in its greatest hour…

Goddess women have curves, grace, poise, eloquence, heels, minimalism that speaks volumes. There is delight, inner strength, control, freedom, wisdom and above all, these Goddesses are sensual and sexy yet respected for the delicious and determined women they are.

Once upon a time as little as only one generation ago, elocution was taught at school as part of the curriculum and was a very valued lesson for young women.  Consistent vowel practice, rising of one’s eye brows as a means to lift your voice were common lessons. There was an air of ‘finishing school’ within the education system, especially in ‘all girls’ schools and now, elocution is nearly a lost art, a fading value within female education.

Do you remember the movie My Fair Lady with Audrey Hepburn?  This movie exemplifies the power of feminine intention and change, especially when it comes to eloquence and articulation. Language is very powerful ladies. Another great movie that demonstrates change from ladette to lady through language is Pretty Woman. There are several scenes throughout the movie that demonstrate the importance of eloquence and elegance.

The challenge with the many fading feminine arts including grace, poise, posture etc is the increase in masculinity amongst women.  When I refer to masculinity I refer to energy and the polarity that exists between feminine and masculine energy within each of us. With the increase in women working and women business owners, masculine energy is dominant and I’m afraid to say, an unsustainable way to live your feminine life.

Feminine enhancements which sustain and give an abundance of energy come in many forms, everything from taking a warm bubble bath or dancing; to speaking beautifully can enhance a woman’s attraction and the energy levels in any spirited woman.

So what are the benefits of being eloquent?

• You will be respected for your opinion and will be heard. There is a difference between being listened to and really being heard. When you are being heard, what you have to say is truly being valued. Do you want to feel more valued and respected? (Ps. You’ll respect and value yourself more - first and foremost).
• Eloquence will significantly contribute to your overall appeal as a woman, your femininity will be deeply enhanced and your sense of personal power will be increased.
• Being eloquent creates opportunities. Eloquent women are influential women as mentioned in the descriptions of eloquence. If you have the power to influence others, you have the power to open yourself to new and powerful opportunities too.
• If eloquence can inspire others, imagine what it will do for you personally?
• Feminine energy is flowing and has movement. Eloquent delivery of words is fluid and flowing and so, being eloquent with your delivery of communication, will enhance your feminine energy, an unlimited source of strength and power.

Some valuable Tips that will assist you to be even more Eloquent, Influential and Feminine are;

• Read out loud to yourself (or another) and give yourself constructive feedback that encourages you to pronounce more clearly, perhaps ask a friend to give you feedback, remember reading will also help to expand your vocabulary and comprehension
• Consider voice coaching, a series of 6 sessions with the right coach can be quite affordable and make a huge difference to the quality of your communication
• Sing out loud (I do this in the car all the time). Singing is great for strengthening your vocal cords and helps with breath control. It also gives you more awareness of volume and tonality when you speak
• Hold a strong posture and breath from your belly, take slow deep breaths frequently to give you a sense of calm control and awareness and in this space you are more likely to speak consciously
• Practice repeating your vowels, out loud whilst opening your mouth full and round and also practice repeating the sound each vowel makes (as opposed to saying the letter)
• Taking extra personal development classes like Drama, Stand Up Comedy, Presentation skills & Deportment - all of these classes are for building femininity and elocution
• Find a professional who will help you bring out your own brand of personal style. Develop that personality and be strong in your convictions about who you are… your speech will follow quite naturally when you take pride in who you are

There are so many things you can do to develop exquisite elocution and certainly, awareness is the first step toward beautifully spoken language that is most influential and powerful.  Along your journey toward become your own version of a womanly Goddess, open your heart and mind to the many possibilities and tools you have to create the woman you know lives deep within, communication is vital….

Remember, there is nothing sexier than a woman who embraces her worth, who values her womanliness and shines the torch for those around her to be a beacon of light, this you can do by speaking words of wisdom, truth and above all, love…

Yours Real and Raw

Janelle Manton

How to Cultivate Goddess Grace

Grace is being fully aware of your body, its movements, its capabilities and actions at all times. It’s how you hold yourself, speak, react, honor and value who you are.  Being graceful is an ‘awareness feeling’ being executed all the time… It’s flowing and gentle, soft and fluid, feminine…

Here are many ways you can cultivate your own Gracefulness;

• Become more fully aware and accepting of your body and it’s movements at all times, stand tall, hold your head high and walk with purpose
• Remember grace is nonverbal and verbal and the words you speak can have graceful qualities, choose your words carefully with meaning and truth, grace comes from your heart
• Look often with love at your body and appreciate the beauty of your feminine vessel. Everything about your body is a gift from the gods, love it as you deserve
• Exercise and develop your core strength, eat well and rest appropriately for energy. Breath deeply and do daily stretching, a limber body is more fluid and feminine
• Know thyself… Listen to your inner voice, the one of intuition and learn to follow your own guidance, trust the woman within
• Dance often. Either take classes or dance often at home, mastering your body movements is an essential part of having grace and poise naturally
• Groom appropriately, delicately and take due care of your skin and nails by using quality chemical free cosmetics
• Wearing flowing feminine clothes and shoes that fit comfortably always makes you feel elegant and graceful. Take that feeling of flow with you no matter what you are wearing
• Surround yourself with graceful things, nature, plants, fish, waterfalls, home wares, food, bath products, friends and people…

Remember beautiful goddess, true beauty comes from within, so feeling like a womanly Goddess or siren is only a state of mind but one that can be enhanced with a little external help and practice.

Winning affections is simple but it has to start with yourself - winning your own affection and totally loving what you see, hear and feel about the woman you are… External affections will follow quite naturally once you have self love sorted, I promise.

Every woman deserves to reveal the Heavenly Graceful Goddess within… Try these few simple tips and please, gorgeous one, share your thoughts and tips with us here… I love hearing from you x

Yours Real and Raw

Janelle Manton

The Secret to Conquering a Man’s World by Cultivating your Femininity

There are times in life when it gets a little crazy, work gets super hectic, families are demanding with school commitments and sporting obligations, the house starts to slip, meals become ‘easy’ and quick options start looking more appetising and everyone wants a little bit of you…

And because you are the matriarch of your life, you give it and give it till there comes a day when you sit completely spent… exhausted, possibly ill and totally disconnected with the most important person in the world… Honey that is you.

Times are changing but the facts remain, in some ways we still live in a man’s world, how you ask, when more new businesses are being opened by women each day. How when fewer women are staying home than ever before? Surely our voice is louder than ever before, right?

In my research and years of coaching women from all walks of life, the conclusions I have come to could be the significant difference you need to hear.  Women have become more like men than ever before, in order to keep up with men, compete with them and run around like men do, women have had to compromise the very core of which they are - their femininity.

What does this really mean? Ladies, it means sometimes you have to go back to basics when you are exhausted and tired and over worked. You have to remember the very things that revitalise a woman’s energy, soul and spirit… Be a woman first and realise what our differences are and then do something about it… Read the signs you might say.

Cultivating femininity or nurturing your feminine side is really quite easy… Feminine energy is flowing and free, intuitive, creative and expressive, it has movement and emotion. It’s easily found in nature, dance, music, writing.

Feminine energy is more profoundly enhanced the deeper you travel inward… toward your soul and real emotions. So, activities like meditation, yoga, hypnotic inductions, journaling, bush walk or walking along the beach, painting, shopping, chatting with girlfriends about things that make you feel GOOD, dance expression, trusting your gut feelings and allowing yourself to FEEL…

And let’s never forget the power of a little sexual activity, some tender loving time with yourself is an immediate way to clear your head, recharge your love batteries and relieve stress… All those feel good hormones released do great things for you, so be sure to get yourself some of that honey…

All of these will recharge your batteries and get you on the road to conquering the world once again and reconnecting with the most important person in the world - You.  Honey your world needs you in one piece, so connect with you often, read the signs before you crash and take appropriate action toward rejuvenating your energy.

Might I suggest my audio program ‘Cultivating the Grrr Factor’ 60 minutes of the perfect way to chill out and enjoy some great girl time - specifically designed to bring you back to you precious… Take a quick look under Products for more information.

Yours Real and Raw

Janelle Manton

Sex Sells

We all know how prolific sex is in the media, it’s everywhere you look there is either a half naked  skinny, big breasted woman with too perfect hair selling something…  cars, soft drinks, music, clothes, cosmetics, accessories - And that is just the start of it.  Even music clips need to be censored these days - anything from the teen sensation The Veronicas getting it on together in their clips to Beyonce wiggling her very gorgeous ass around is selling sex. I don’t need to remind you of how much of a uproar Cher caused when she decided to ‘Turn back time’ in her unforgettable ‘duct tape’ outfit whilst riding a cannon…. Argh! But we all still watched in amazement of some kind, right?

Advertisers know they are selling to both men and women when it comes to the sexy images they portray and they also know it works but are we as consumers really that gullible?  Or is there something far more important going on that we have yet to GET before this kind of advertising stops insulting our intelligence and sexualising our children?

The fact of the matter is that Sex Sells, it always has and most likely, always will!

What I find most interesting is what our perception of sexy really is.  For the majority of men it’s not big breasted, blond bombshells wearing short skirts (like most women also think).  Most people like to look at that kind of sexy (perhaps out of intrigue) but do not take it seriously. Why? Because we want more, men want more from women and women want more from themselves (and their men).  Succumbing to ‘cheap sexy’ (the kind that reveals too much skin) does not value the person for whom they really are inside, in fact, it sells them short by a long shot and insults their intelligence.

When surveyed by Top Secret Women’s Business, the majority of men said that confidence and curves are what they found most sexy about a woman… It was how they carried themself and really felt about themself on the inside that they found most appealing about a woman.  So why are we still accepting the media’s version of sexy when what we know to be REALLY AUTHENTICALLY SEXY comes from within? Time to ditch the discriminating sexist magazine advertising and glossies and make room for what really counts - How you really see and feel about yourself, because only then will advertiser ease up on perceiving sexy any other way.

This article is about how to really sell sex, the kind that keeps your ass covered and your breasts put away so you to get anything you want - with your integrity intact and your personal power restored.  You might even become a more media savvy person as a result - by not buying into the cheap thrill of boobs and bouncing hair. You will realise that sexy is not anything that is external but quite the opposite, sexy is a state of mind, a belief, a feeling, an undeniable strength, energy that you can cultivate at anytime, once you know how…

It means that anyone can be sexy at any size, shape, height, hair colour because sexy comes from within - at any time of the day. Sexy is a state of mind and quickly translates to innate confidence and self worth when you take the promise of sex out of it.

So how do you sell your own brand of sexy and become Mistress of your own Universe, get more of what you deserve and everything you expect?

It’s easy; you do it by cultivating your very own ‘Grrr…Factor’. Grrr factor is not too different from ‘X Factor’ but it’s more about what is on the inside. Grrr is spunk, confidence, self worth, an innate sense of knowing you are on top of your game, the solid sense of being totally in love with yourself and that little sparkle in your eye - the kind that lets people know you are deeply sexy - from the inside out.  It’s in your walk, your grace and poise, how you hold your head and the deep alluring look in your eyes…

A deep inner sense of sexy is revealed externally as confidence, if you know you are sexy, confidence comes easy and so will that job of your dreams, the career path you desire, the relationship you dream about and all the things in between that really matter. So let’s look at ways you can feel more sexy and powerful.

So here are 7 secrets to begin to cultivate your Grrr Factor;

• Get rid of your magazines - especially the ones that do not serve YOU, stop buying them (put the money in an interesting bearing fund like ING instead), not only will you increase your wealth but you will be less influenced by others perception of beauty and perfection and start to develop your own sense of style and character less the external influences
• Turn your TV off (or sell your TV), minimise your News viewing (because it’s all doom and gloom and can dampen anyone’s mood)
• Now you’ve minimised the media bombardment, you can start getting more in touch with YOU and just being you, get Real and Raw. Every woman knows there is more to them than meets the eye, be prepared to be more open and more revealing of the inner you - by simply deciding that is what you want. Hang out with like minded women who support you
• Ask yourself up to 50 times a day, “Am I being a real woman right now?” Display elegance, poise, grace, softness and posture when possible - when you shift your physiology, you can shift your mindset too - so no more slouching, hold your head up high honey and be proud, practice in your mirror at home
• Pimp up your wardrobe with some colour, frills, florals, dresses and accessories - anything feminine that spells class and style (ok you may want to omit the floral suggestion). Dare to dress yourself up so you feel great every day, remember you don’t have to let your breasts out to play to feel sexy - True sexiness comes from within
• Move more - exercise releases feel good endorphins into your body and are great for stress relief and making you feel on top of it… So start moving more, take the stairs, go for walks, Do some in home classes (Zumba is fantastic), bike ride, gym, yoga…Anything that gets you moving…
• Be creative and expressive - Your femininity needs a creative outlet. In order to really nestle into your sexy mindset, discover a way you can express yourself and your emotions… Write, paint, do pottery, dance, sing, meditate. Whatever you do, make it an expression of your femininity so you can cultivate even more Grrr.

So here is the juice of it ladies… You don’t have to be the prettiest, smallest, youngest or best dressed to get what you want… All you need to do is believe in yourself… That kind of sexy can sell you into the career of your dreams, the relationship you’ve always wanted, or the team you’ve always wanted to join, anything in fact. Why? Because your Grrr Factor is about you and your innate confidence, your control and internal power and no one can take that from you and that my friends is dead sexy.

So does sex sell? Yes it does and it doesn’t seem to be changing anytime soon (even in spite of the relentless efforts of the many anti sexist and anti discrimination campaigns running), so best you get  the band wagon - In a Top Secret kind of way… By discovering how you can cultivate you own brand of sexy that has you shining and feeling confident from the inside out. It’s only then when we change our overall perception of what sexy really is that anything in the media will change because only then will we stop buying into their perceptions of cheap sexy.

Are women disadvantaged if they don’t look like a glossy magazine cover? No way, sexy comes from within - it’s something you have inside you, every woman is sexy… Just ask me how you can identify your own sexy style that is what I do.

Is there an easy way I can feel deeply sexy and more confident? Yes indeed, especially through Top Secret Women’s Business… We have a Goddess Academy Retreat coming up in July and you can be one of the few women who are selected to attend - You will transform your life, I promise… Ask me how and save over $500 on your weekend tuition.

Also, check out my signature Audio program Cultivating the GRRR… Factor (only $35) - it could be the ticket you need to get started or rejuvenate your own sexy brand.  And take a look at the dates for The Goddess Academy - every woman should attend this weekend away, you need it…

I am here to help and Top Secret Women’s Business fully supports every woman’s personal journey toward being the Goddess you were born to be.

Yours Real and Raw

How to increase your Self Esteem through Personal Style

   I wake up every morning jump out of bed, stretching and yawning another day ahead, make my way to the shower and it’s then I notice in the bathroom mirror the nasty swollen, bright red pimple on my chin, argh!  Not only that, I can almost see the chocolate cake I ate after dinner last night on my thighs and I swear I didn’t have those dark circles when I went to bed last night.  No amount of squeezing gets rid of the pimple, my evening walk is too my hours away to melt the cake from my thighs and I have no time to sleep anymore and I am sure cold soggy tea bags on my eyes is an old wives tale and let’s not even mention my hair.   I woke up enthusiastically and now, all of a sudden I feel like a lead balloon. My self esteem is shot to pieces with one quick look in the mirror.

Have you ever had a morning like that?

    Perhaps most of your life has been spent reminding you of your ‘imperfections’ and then wasting  positive energy on the negative emotions that come with critical self talk, and the occasional pimple.   It’s no surprise to most women to hear - the way you look has a lot to do with how you feel about you.  I know firsthand, as a woman, friend, coach and having worked with women all my life, how a few extra kilos mid month can make me feel ineffective, fat and sometimes even gross.  I have heard many friends and colleagues say similar things, under similar circumstances. We are our own worst critics but it’s time to ease up and love the body you are in, by taking simple steps to nurture yourself each day.

“If you look after yourself, you obviously love yourself”

   There is plenty of proof that indicates that how we look has a lot to do with how we feel, just ask a friend if that is true.  And how you feel has a lot to do with how much effort you put into looking even better.  What you choose to do about it (if anything) has direct impact on your inner confidence and self worth - when you take action that nurtures your womanly needs, you are honouring and valuing yourself - if you feel good you naturally look good…. if I make building self confidence and self worth sound easy, that is  because it is.

   There are many ways to increase your self esteem, feel glamorous and develop your innate sense of confidence.  By developing your own sense of style and taking good care of yourself on the outside, you will feel strong and worthy on the inside.  And how you feel about yourself on the inside is reflected on the outside.  Does this mean you have to wear mascara and pretty clothes everyday to feel good about yourself - no, not at all. But imagine if you made some small improvements to your morning routine, added a few little extra steps and made it mean “I love myself even more”…

   Increasing and developing your sense of style is all about how you feel about you and only you.  What extras steps would you be willing to do, if you knew it would increase your self esteem and confidence and help you to feel great - like a powerful, feminine woman?

   Style is all about expressing your personality and develops your individuality - it’s an expression of who you are both inside and out and tells us a lot about who you are and how you feel about you.

   Below are four simple tips to start to develop your style to assist you in feeling like a divine goddess each day.  It’s likely your morning routine already includes these steps, so it’s time to kick it up a notch - how can you increase your personal style, so you are nurturing and honouring the very person you are - everyday?

   Before I list the four tips, you may have asked the question I always get regarding external applications for feeling good. “How can putting on makeup or wearing a pink shirt make me feel good - It can’t!  But the act of respecting, love and making effort to take care of yourself, can. Effort is also an expression of your femininity  and self respect, which is indeed a strength in itself.

• 1) Makeup - Historically, women have been applying enhancements, jewels and colour to adorn their faces and bodies for eons, so why stop now? I rarely leave the house without mascara and lip gloss - that’s because for me, it’s a way of honouring myself as a woman. What is your ‘can’t live without’ makeup item? Do you have one? It could be time to develop your signature look with a little extra makeup, a specific colour of lipstick or gloss or blush to accentuate your features. If you are a heavy makeup user, try toning it down a bit to let your natural self shine through. Either way, you are honouring your sacred feminine and most importantly, making an effort for your own benefit.
• 2) Accessorise - Necklaces, co-ordinating ear rings, rings, scarves, hats, gorgeous belts, hair clips, brooches, head bands, tights and bangles. The key is to keep is simple, make a statement and coordinate with your clothes. It’s a great idea to develop your own signature items and vary them regularly… Be bold and express a little more of you.
• 3) Your clothes are simply a way to protect your body but who says they have to be ordinary or boring? My advice here, is to get your colours done by a professional image consultant so you can wear colour with confidence and flare. A few key items in your wardrobe that are an expression of your style are essential. Again, be bold and brave and dare to step out of your comfort zone and move away from societal expectations of style - by this I mean, move away from mainstream stores and get out into the local markets, local designers and the niche corner boutiques. Always go feminine and flowing, even a fitted business suit could be ‘femmed up’ with a floral or hot pink blouse and sexy tights.
• 4) Lastly, stand tall, hold your space and energy within and go forth with your head held high, there is nothing more gorgeous and more nurturing for your self esteem than good posture, poise and grace. Be playful and have fun - because at the end of the day, the most important person in the world you want to impress, is you.

   Remember this lovely ladies, cute clothes, funky accessories and a well made up face are not smoke screens for the real you. If not expressed for the right reasons, they could very well be that. There is a saying that ‘the most gorgeous and well groomed woman in the room, is most likely the most insecure’ - don’t let that be you.  When you make an effort, adorn, nurture and take time for you, it clearly is an expression of your self-love. Remember, you are already perfect as you are and your womanly birthright gives you lots of toys to play with to make being a woman even more fun.  Make it grandiose and love who you are - from the inside out… and observe how you shine.

Yours Real and Raw

Janelle Manton

The Sweet Scent of Sensuality

There is much to be said about the uniqueness of a woman’s own brand of sensuality.  You’ve seen a woman like that before and I bet you weren’t sure what it was about her that made her attractive. Maybe she wasn’t traditionally pretty, but there was something luscious and innately confident about her that caught your eye.  Even other women notice a woman that owns who she is.  The sensual one is the one who holds her head high when she walks, she moves with grace and poise and has a depth and intensity about her that is so subtle it goes ‘almost’ unrecognised.

A sensual woman knows who she is and is open to sharing her opinion, her stories and herself, she is real and raw.  Her past is left in the past; she does not waste time on regret, but always learns from her experiences.  As a lover she is generous, saucy, obliging and knows how to make a man feel like a man.  Her soft femininity combined with her sense of knowing drives her man wild - and probably other men also.  She is a temptress, a minx, a cougar and a submissive little she wolf, all rolled into one. 

A sensual woman is acutely aware of her power and her sensuality is the very foundation of her being.  A smooth, smart contender, a sensual woman is a wild woman who runs with the wolves of desire and appeases her yearning heart because she values who she is and what she is forever becoming.  The most important person in the world to a sensual woman is herself.  She understands that everything in her life starts with her, her ability to take care of her own needs, first.  The she wolf knows the intricate nature of her writhing body and so surrenders to her lovers with ease and willingness, she is their teacher.  She trusts, loves and values herself and has no difficulty sharing her voice.   She is a Goddess, hidden in a jungle of office buildings, the one cleaning the house and preparing dinner for her family.  She often hides behind a veil of silver hair or corporate glasses, but she knows the truth of who she really is…

Being a sensual woman, one who ‘owns’ her sensuality and unique style takes some work.  It all starts with developing a loving relationship with yourself.  In order to comprehend this and understand the depth at which this goes, you have to let go of your past, the hurt, pain and blame and heal.  Owning and loving yourself can only be done when you take full responsibility for your life and understand that your ‘every experience up till now’ has shaped and moulded you into the gorgeous goddess you are today.  Once you have cleared the past and taken ownership of you, only then, can you develop your sensuality in the holistic natural way it was meant.

Sensuality involves gratifying all of your senses, becoming completely self aware and aware of your surroundings. It can be likened to living life in expanded awareness. You are completely absorbed in life, how it feel, the exotic aromas of the world, the touch and feel of every texture and taste that surrounds you every day.  Everything you do you do with volition, your  body movements, the way you flick your hair, the way you smile at a stranger walking by.  Your gateway to ‘being’ a sensual woman is self sexing. Make love to your own body. Understand what your desires are and fulfil them, know how far you will go to satiate your own needs and ground yourself with the secret knowledge of how sexy you really are.

The benefit to the rest of the world is enormous, especially to your loving partner.  When you start to bring sexy back into your life by developing your sensuality, you are suddenly more attractive to the opposite sex. Your partner will go nuts over you, his primal urges reigniting and kicking in. The polarity between you is clearer, more defined.  As your innate self confidence increases, your whole life will change. You could experience forward movement in your career, your relationships with family and friends will improve and your health more valued.  Your sex life will explode with new enthusiasm as you surrender to your lover with tender vulnerability because deep down, you know you are in control and standing in your power.

There is nothing more beautiful than a woman who owns her sensuality from the inside out.  I have surveyed many men regarding ‘what makes a woman most sexy to you’ and the most common answer is her confidence, her personality and her curves.  So, unlike what we may be lead to believe through the media, super skinny, pencil thin, blank expressionless gals are not very sexy at all.  If you want to seriously spice up your life, embrace your femininity and celebrate being a real woman, then it is high time you pimp up your sensual side and start living a rich and fulfilled life.

A woman is most powerful when she has sensuality as her foundation. (C)

Janelle Manton

Director and Founder

SEXUAL MAGIC…. The Power of healing and reclaiming your self confidence by cultivating your sexual magic!

Dear Top Secret Women and gorgeous new friends,

I write this article with the most loving warmth and authenticity that one can give, as it is very close to my heart and what Top Secret Women’s Business (TSWB) is really all about. I urge you to open your mind and your body to receiving this beautiful gift and may you enjoy the tremendous benefits for many, many moons…..

In all my travels, study, research, growth and personal experiences the one thing I know for sure is this: No one can love me more than myself, no one can fulfil my desires more than me, no one else can make me happy like I can, no one can know my body and how it works like I know it myself, no one single person can understand and appreciate my mind like I know it and no one can satiate my wants and needs like I can.

Anything other than this ‘self-fulfilment’ is leaving my happiness and life’s fulfilment in the hands of another – at the risk of being left with unfulfilled expectations and ultimately disappointment and in some cases, a serious blow to self confidence, self esteem and self worth… Making your potential happiness the task and responsibility of another person is not being in control or empowered, it is not being in the driver’s seat and certainly not being the master operator of your life. There is nothing healing about co-dependency and I am here to say, all the answers and the contentment you seek, come from within!

So what does this have to do with sexual magic and your self-confidence? Well, I have always been a very sexual creature, from a young age, intrigued, inspired and with a libido that could put most men on edge, I have been consumed most of my life with trying to understand the powerful attraction to such explosive experiences and desires and am lead here with you… The more I studied and seeked to understand sexual connection, the more I experimented sexually, the more I understood human nature with my coaching back ground, the more I realised the link between sex and self confidence.
There is an intricate spiritual link between you and your sexual self (your sexual magic) and your ability to fully love and be your grounded, gorgeous, confident self.

Right before your very eyes you have the most powerful instrument of healing repressed emotional, old hurts and blocks - by cultivating sexual energy within you… With sexual energy you have the immediate ability to feel incredible love, happiness, joy, self worth, confidence and self esteem. You can put a bounce back in your step, have a positive outlook, you can feel energised and yet relaxed. Sexual energy is the giver of life and the life force energy that promotes an inner connection with your feelings of balance and harmony and a deep sense of spirituality, sexual magic can be healing in the right hands… It is said by Tantric studies that spiritual sexual practices are the gateway to ‘being thy self’.

Let me ask you this… How can you expect another person to love your body if you don’t? How can another person make love to you ‘completely surrendered’, if you have never surrendered to yourself? How can it be possible to fully allow another person into your soul, if you have never connected with yourself to this depth? And how on earth can you expect another person to heal or ‘complete you’ if you have not delved into this possibility yourself?

All of this is possible BY YOURSELF. Imagine a life of fulfilment and completeness by ‘self loving’ practices? Imagine by seeking magical sexual practices with yourself, how deeply moving your lovemaking with another could be? How would your life be different if you had complimentary relationships instead of co-dependent ones? And how would your intimate relationship with your partner improve if you had the kind of sexual confidence that was completely FREE - uninhibited and clear of any past conditioning?

I know from much research and asking many questions regarding sexual freedom, that most women had quite reserved (uncommunicative) relationships with their mothers – me included. Couple that with years of societal conditioning and male dominant societies and you have women in plague proportions, who lack self esteem, confidence, energy and successful relationships. I hope you know, I understand our mothers did the best they could with the resources they had at hand, but this has now got to stop, as it is affecting your future possibilities!

Maybe your mother never spoke openly about sex, menstruation or masturbation… Have you ever considered the impact the lack of sexual openness (by the one woman in the world who was to be your teacher) may have had on you functioning like a confident and successful woman?

The Hite Report on Women Loving Women by Sheri Hite has much to say on this subject as does the book Reclaiming Your Goddess Sexuality by Dr Linda Savage. Both books go to great lengths to articulate the impact and importance an openly communicative relationship with your mother had as a child. Your very intimate sexual experiences and current state of affairs as an adult, could be a reflection of how you really see yourself… Do you really see and feel yourself intimately at all? Do you practise ‘being’ you, with yourself?

Here in lies a great secret…. How far will you go to seek fulfilment in the truest sense of the word?
What I and Top Secret Women’s Business propose is that more women start getting in touch with the more ‘intimate you’, go down the rabbit hole of desire, recharge your own batteries and explore the secrets of your own self loving. Become passionate ladies - with yourself, be romantic with you, care and nurture ALL of your desires, explore your depths and be the master of self giving… it is only then that true peace, confidence, success and self love come fully to you… is only then you will ‘Be thy self’- Magical, Strong, Successful, Sexy, Confident and Fulfilled…..

‘Seek no further, yours is the kingdom of source’.

If you want to discuss this subject in more depth and learn how Top Secret Women’s Business can open your eyes to the magic of sexual confidence, then please do not hesitate to contact me directly.

Keep your eyes open because Top Secret Women’s Business has something in store for you… something VERY TOP SECRET. I look forward to loving you in the future and trust this has been a thought provoking read…. x

Yours, Real and Raw,
Janelle Manton
Director

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