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I recently wrote an article about the Power of Glamour check it out: http://www.theauthenticrelationship.com/sensuality/powerfully-glamorous/ ) and the keys to being so gorgeous on the inside and out you become a power house of confidence and self esteem.  I mean if you are glammed up, you feel hot and feel so much better about yourself, we all do, right?

Most women have experienced the stifling negativity a bad hair day can create and most women can imagine a night of wearing hot red boots with a fur coat and how absolutely incredible you’d feel, Yes?

The power of fashion and how it makes women feel is fascinating, alluring and is something to consider when it comes to how you are perceived by others and how you honestly feel about yourself….. Let’s explore the world of fashion and whether you are hiding behind it’s facade.

The difference between the spunky warm feeling of inner confidence and self esteem and being a fashion diva who’s life revolves around fashion at the expense of being unauthentic is extreme and even dangerous to your emotional health.  If you are wearing labels so obsessively that they define you, then listen up because this article is for you.

I knew a woman once who was so defined by her Tiffany jewels, her country road everything and her other designs that even after 4 years of friendship, I never really knew ‘her’.  I’m pretty sure we all know someone like this…  Everything she did revolved around being seen as something of a mogul and super success because she wore all the right things - on the outside, her life looked perfect as she was ’seen’ in all the right places.  She judged others success by their lack of labels, glitter and gold and spoke often of what others did not have, I was one of these women who lacked the cool clothes…

And every now and then after a few drinks, her defences wore down, her inhibitions revealed a scared and lonely woman who craved love and acceptance, she feared rejection and dared not let anyone too close.  Our nights always ended in tears of fears.

What I saw was a woman who hid behind her fashion perfection and used it as a false facade of confidence, bravery and success.  Now don’t get me wrong, she was very successful but what she didn’t reveal were hidden insecurities and low self esteem wrapped up in a Country Road sweater, pants and boots, we rarely glimpsed the real beauty of this gorgeous woman. Instead she missed out on some amazingly close and loyal friendships because she wouldn’t let anyone in for fear they’d see her vulnerabilities… Any real friend who embrace her anyway, right?

The sad thing is that so many women hide behind their material possessions instead of being Real and Raw so much so, their possessions define them. How many women do you know who fail to reveal their true vulnerable nature, the woman they really are in leiu of fashion fixes?

Can you proudly wear the label of your choice and know without a doubt you are being real and raw? I mean ‘this is me, this is who I am’ kind of authenticity?

Real authenticity comes with embracing your sacred feminine self, it’s when you realise and love all of who you are, bad hair day and all and never edit who you are for anyone.  Real and raw is a continuous expression of self love in all you do, saying it as you feel it, speaking your truth, living life as you alone desire, making your own rules and letting the light of the goddess you are shine through those beautifully deep eyes. You are vulnerable and wear your heart for all to see because you realise there is nothing more beautiful than you being you…  There is little more precious in the world than a woman who is sovereign to her own divinity.

Mia Freedman is such a woman… Check out her site: http://www.mamamia.com.au/

When it comes to clothes and wearing yummy things that make us feel good, wear them with pride but remember who you really are. You are not a label… You are a magical being of light and love who has so much more to offer the world than something pretty to look at. Dare to reveal the real you under the facade of delicious clothing and be your glamorous self,  however you express your true nature.

3 Tips for Being Authentic & Fashionable

1)  Dare to show up as yourself, when you don’t really feel like making an effort, don’t. Show those around you who you really are without makeup and coordinated clothing. I don’t mean being a dag to the point of embarassing but I do mean it’s not always a fashion contest and you showing up as you are, gives those permission to do the same.

2)  Check in with yourself… Do you have to have your ‘look’ perfect before you leave the house? If so, check in with yourself as to why this is the case. If any of the reasons fall into the category of ‘being worried about what others think’, you could be a slave to fashion and hiding something very precious… The Real You!

3)  If you always look good and know you don’t have a problem with being authentic, revealing yourself, your true nature and you stand tall, then own that sister, you can lead the way for other women to follow… You are divine. Be sure to love and honour yourself often.

Please know that I am always here to help. If there is even a little part of you that you know is hiding behind materialism and fighting fears to be yourself, then please make an appointment to speak to me. The world deserves to see you for who you really are.

It takes a lot more time and effort being a fashion fake as opposed to being yourself and showing up as you feel… Just remember that when you are deliberating what to wear.

Yours Real and Raw

Janelle Manton

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• Increased blood flow and nutrients to all of your tissues which allows a greater range of motion
• More synergistic muscle coordination
• Better sexual mobility and a greater variety of positions, better sex is the best reason to be more flexible!
• Stretching causes muscular relaxation, which results in reduction of accumulated toxins, less muscle shortening or tightening, and less fatigue
• Improved posture

Stretching to increase flexibility can be as easy as joining a yoga class or sitting on the floor each night when you watch tv and doing some light stretching.  Each time you do it, it gets easier and the easier it gets, the better you are going to feel each time too. Not sure what to do? Rent a few DVD’s on yoga and learn a few basic poses and off you go.

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You’ve heard the Queen deliver a speech right? She oozes eloquence as one would expect….

Eloquence is the graceful delivery of words that is fluid with a superior level of style and confidence.  Pronunciation is enhanced and there is an appreciation of a broad vocabulary and a comprehensive comprehension of language…

So why is Eloquence so important for a modern Goddess?

Well darling, have you ever met a beautiful and delightful woman, who walked smoothly, had incredible hair and was impeccably groomed, she stood with confidence and when she opened her mouth, you nearly fell over with offense?  This apparently graceful creature was loud, raucous, rough, she mumbled with slang oozing out of her mouth?

Your impression was shattered by the rude interruption of the mouth speaking and your ears ached… This negative impression is the reason why eloquence is vital to every Goddess. Eloquence is power. It’s influential and people listen to what you have to say, when you say it with style and meaningfulness.

When you couple speaking well, with grace and poise you have a winning formula for attraction and success. Having Grace is the one thing which certainly enhances your feminine strengths and appeal, and you have to know that speaking ‘like a lady’ is yet another way to become more sensual, more powerful, more confident and more HEARD by others.

Consider the gorgeous and delectable screen Goddesses of the past, very few other women surpass their beauty, grace, eloquence and poise.  When you see such women as Grace Kelly, Audrey Hepburn, Rita Hayworth, Faye Dunaway, Vivian Leigh, Katherine Hepburn (to name just a few), you see perfection in the female form, femininity in its greatest hour…

Goddess women have curves, grace, poise, eloquence, heels, minimalism that speaks volumes. There is delight, inner strength, control, freedom, wisdom and above all, these Goddesses are sensual and sexy yet respected for the delicious and determined women they are.

Once upon a time as little as only one generation ago, elocution was taught at school as part of the curriculum and was a very valued lesson for young women.  Consistent vowel practice, rising of one’s eye brows as a means to lift your voice were common lessons. There was an air of ‘finishing school’ within the education system, especially in ‘all girls’ schools and now, elocution is nearly a lost art, a fading value within female education.

Do you remember the movie My Fair Lady with Audrey Hepburn?  This movie exemplifies the power of feminine intention and change, especially when it comes to eloquence and articulation. Language is very powerful ladies. Another great movie that demonstrates change from ladette to lady through language is Pretty Woman. There are several scenes throughout the movie that demonstrate the importance of eloquence and elegance.

The challenge with the many fading feminine arts including grace, poise, posture etc is the increase in masculinity amongst women.  When I refer to masculinity I refer to energy and the polarity that exists between feminine and masculine energy within each of us. With the increase in women working and women business owners, masculine energy is dominant and I’m afraid to say, an unsustainable way to live your feminine life.

Feminine enhancements which sustain and give an abundance of energy come in many forms, everything from taking a warm bubble bath or dancing; to speaking beautifully can enhance a woman’s attraction and the energy levels in any spirited woman.

So what are the benefits of being eloquent?

• You will be respected for your opinion and will be heard. There is a difference between being listened to and really being heard. When you are being heard, what you have to say is truly being valued. Do you want to feel more valued and respected? (Ps. You’ll respect and value yourself more - first and foremost).
• Eloquence will significantly contribute to your overall appeal as a woman, your femininity will be deeply enhanced and your sense of personal power will be increased.
• Being eloquent creates opportunities. Eloquent women are influential women as mentioned in the descriptions of eloquence. If you have the power to influence others, you have the power to open yourself to new and powerful opportunities too.
• If eloquence can inspire others, imagine what it will do for you personally?
• Feminine energy is flowing and has movement. Eloquent delivery of words is fluid and flowing and so, being eloquent with your delivery of communication, will enhance your feminine energy, an unlimited source of strength and power.

Some valuable Tips that will assist you to be even more Eloquent, Influential and Feminine are;

• Read out loud to yourself (or another) and give yourself constructive feedback that encourages you to pronounce more clearly, perhaps ask a friend to give you feedback, remember reading will also help to expand your vocabulary and comprehension
• Consider voice coaching, a series of 6 sessions with the right coach can be quite affordable and make a huge difference to the quality of your communication
• Sing out loud (I do this in the car all the time). Singing is great for strengthening your vocal cords and helps with breath control. It also gives you more awareness of volume and tonality when you speak
• Hold a strong posture and breath from your belly, take slow deep breaths frequently to give you a sense of calm control and awareness and in this space you are more likely to speak consciously
• Practice repeating your vowels, out loud whilst opening your mouth full and round and also practice repeating the sound each vowel makes (as opposed to saying the letter)
• Taking extra personal development classes like Drama, Stand Up Comedy, Presentation skills & Deportment - all of these classes are for building femininity and elocution
• Find a professional who will help you bring out your own brand of personal style. Develop that personality and be strong in your convictions about who you are… your speech will follow quite naturally when you take pride in who you are

There are so many things you can do to develop exquisite elocution and certainly, awareness is the first step toward beautifully spoken language that is most influential and powerful.  Along your journey toward become your own version of a womanly Goddess, open your heart and mind to the many possibilities and tools you have to create the woman you know lives deep within, communication is vital….

Remember, there is nothing sexier than a woman who embraces her worth, who values her womanliness and shines the torch for those around her to be a beacon of light, this you can do by speaking words of wisdom, truth and above all, love…

Yours Real and Raw

Janelle Manton

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Grace is being fully aware of your body,

Here are many ways you can cultivate your own Gracefulness;

• Become more fully aware and accepting of your body and it’s movements at all times, stand tall, hold your head high and walk with purpose
• Remember grace is nonverbal and verbal and the words you speak can have graceful qualities, choose your words carefully with meaning and truth, grace comes from your heart
• Look often with love at your body and appreciate the beauty of your feminine vessel. Everything about your body is a gift from the gods, love it as you deserve
• Exercise and develop your core strength, eat well and rest appropriately for energy. Breath deeply and do daily stretching, a limber body is more fluid and feminine
• Know thyself… Listen to your inner voice, the one of intuition and learn to follow your own guidance, trust the woman within
• Dance often. Either take classes or dance often at home, mastering your body movements is an essential part of having grace and poise naturally
• Groom appropriately, delicately and take due care of your skin and nails by using quality chemical free cosmetics
• Wearing flowing feminine clothes and shoes that fit comfortably always makes you feel elegant and graceful. Take that feeling of flow with you no matter what you are wearing
• Surround yourself with graceful things, nature, plants, fish, waterfalls, home wares, food, bath products, friends and people…

Remember beautiful goddess, true beauty comes from within, so feeling like a womanly Goddess or siren is only a state of mind but one that can be enhanced with a little external help and practice.

Winning affections is simple but it has to start with yourself - winning your own affection and totally loving what you see, hear and feel about the woman you are… External affections will follow quite naturally once you have self love sorted, I promise.

Every woman deserves to reveal the Heavenly Graceful Goddess within… Try these few simple tips and please, gorgeous one, share your thoughts and tips with us here… I love hearing from you x

Yours Real and Raw

Janelle Manton

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To make it worse, we have not known what to really do about it, until now.  For most women, the art of innate wisdom is lost - that of trusting your intuition and acknowledging  inside each and every one of you is a Goddess, a Queen, a Wise Woman, all waiting to be unleashed and revitalised, trusted…!

The daily challenges women face today are very different compared to days gone by. Firstly, we work in jobs away from our homes and children, we no longer have a community of women helping and supporting us to succeed.  We strive for success, own businesses, pay bills, set goals, provide for families and in a lot of ways have become just like men… Even the way most women dress is lost in masculinity. And in so shifting our roles, have we lost sight of our innate widsom as women?

Our roles have reversed somewhat and most women I speak to are exhausted and tired and struggle with balance with energy, inparticular masculine and feminine energy. If you want to feel fresher and more intune with you….

Ladies it’s time to unleash your Sacred Feminine Goddess so you can achieve more, with more energy and style, more sass and sexy spunkiness and here’s why:

Because you are worth it!!!  Every woman on the planet deserves to feel like the Goddess she really is because it’s your ancient birthright and it’s the most effective way to restore balance back to mother earth, create happy nurtured children and long lasting, loving partnerships and it makes you happier, it’s that simple.

Most importantly gorgeous lady,women need to FEEL gorgeous,FEEL intuitive, FEEL nurturing, FEEL secure, FEEL confident, FEEL soft and FEEL loving. This is how we rejuvenate our precious energy, restore our faith and passion in ourselves, revitalise the world around us in every way and discover our inner strength and powers.

Our Inner Goddess helps us to succeed!

You are powerful beyond belief, more passionate than you were taught to be, a deeply sensual being that is well and truly under-utilized and certainly not revered as the Tribal mother/daughter/sister/Wise woman you really are.

Isn’t it time you stepped up and revealed your deepest, truest nature and gave away with giving a shit what other people think?

Isn’t it time to speak your truth, speak up and speak out about who you really are and what you really want?

Isn’t it time to ramp up your Grrr Factor, dare to walk on the wild side and push the limits on what you think you are capable of?

Surely it’s time to get intune with the voice of the divine Goddess that dwells deep within and truly hear the wisdom and the voice of love which is YOU?

Unleashing your Goddess benefits you in so many ways, the main one is that of being Real and Raw, your authentic, most wild and lush self…. mmmmm. So, what are you going to do today that let’s your Goddess out to play? I’d love to hear from you x

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Yours Real and Raw,

Janelle Manton

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