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Recognise Burnout – Before it’s too late!

Recognise Burnout – Before it’s too late!

May 3, 2011

In recent weeks, I’ve been blowing the horn at both ends (so to speak), working around the clock on a project for another company, doing the graveyard shift on Top Secret Women’s projects, events AND coaching clients.  Add to that a healthy dose of domestic duties, raising two children, now 11 and 13 and nurturing a new relationship – you’d safely agree, I have my hands full but not necessarily any more than anyone else.

At the beginning of the year I spent ten days in silence at Vipassana – a ten day silent Buddhist retreat.  Ten days of complete peace, grounded quiet, simplifying life in ways I’d only ever dreamt of through meditation… And all too quickly the hounds of overwhelm have kicked in and nearly taken over – had I not recognised the signs of reaching burnout. Thanks to Vipassana I have a significant comparison to draw on when recognising when life is getting a little too hectic and it’s taking its toll on me.

Perhaps you too might recognise the signs of burnout or overwhelm? Perhaps it’s not a coincidence you are reading this article today?

Here is what you need to know about the signs of overwhelm, burnout and stress, (according to my experience), keep a look out for them;

  • A slight increase in your heart beat, it’s a little louder when you are doing tasks and there is a sense of urgency that won’t settle
  • You go to bed going over and over in your head how much needs to be done, what you didn’t do and in which order you will get even more done tomorrow and sleep with an uneasy feeling in your stomach
  • Your dreams become more erratic and irrational, they are loud and stranger, more vivid and you either sleep more heavily or toss and turn
  • Your overall energy becomes strained, you feel tired and can’t get enough rest and lack lustre
  • You feel a little cranky or short tempered and have little time for waiting, waiting for anything. Impatience takes over.
  • You withdraw from your lover, your family, your friends and swim in the circus you have made around you – it consumes you
  • Your enthusiasm and motivation takes a nose dive and you struggle staying passionate and inspired about what you are doing, it’s like you forgot what it was all for. You lose sight of the purpose and goal
  • Your libido slowly melts away (shit, now you are in trouble, even less feel good endorphins) and your partner also feels the withdrawal. Now you have pressure from him or her. Unconsciously, they are following your lead in the withdrawal by reflecting your projections.
  • Other things like short temper, crying, feeling overly emotional, the feeling of wilting, anxiety, not wanting to get out of bed and over-reacting, are all signs of a pending burn out

There are more things to look out for and the variety and order of which you may feel these things is unimportant.  The important thing to understand is how to read the signs, see them coming and do something about it before it takes over.

Nearly everyone has at sometime in their life experienced overwhelm or burn out and it’s time to recognise the signs and actively pursue solutions and remedies before it hits you with its full force and debilitates you.

In recent studies, it shows that 1 in 4 women will experience some kind of depression in her life. The 58% of mother’s sex life is non-existent,  47% of women wish they could lose weight, 50% of Australian mothers work, 1 in every 10 women have experienced some form of domestic violence and the average woman only has 30 minutes of leisure time in every 24 hours.

This is just not good enough!  These percentages are on the rise, so what are you going to do about it?

It’s time to become more aware of what is happening to your body and mind, become the observer in your own life so you can effectively regain control. Recognise the signs of ‘doing too much’ and give yourself the regeneration time you not only need, but deserve!

Combating overwhelm is easy when you understand when it’s taking over and recognising the signs is the hardest part. They say a problem well stated is a problem half solved, so be your own boss and tune into your body a little more so you can be self aware enough to save yourself from burnout.

I advise that I am not a Dr, but you know that, so take this information wisely and do not hesitate to see your doctor if you feel you need to.

Here are some Solutions for easing the overwhelming feeling of burnout and how to bring back balance;

  • Find time for yourself regularly and I mean REGULARLY! You can easily avoid burnout by taking time out regularly to rejuvenate – start a weekly and daily ritual of spending some alone, quiet time – read, meditate, go for a walk, paint, dance, yoga, journal…
  • Wear sexy knickers and clothes that make you feel fabulously sexy, powerful and dynamite. Do not underestimate the power of sexy stockings under your work dress, the sauciness of soft lace against your bottom, the feel of silk on your forearm and a fresh spray of your favourite fragrance… Dressing for YOU is most important. If you feel sloppy and wear track suit pants you are certainly not going to feel more powerful are you? So get up, make and effort and dress so you feel and look superb!
  • Go on a date and re-invigorate your relationship, wear sexy clothes, do something special, send flowers with gorgeous love notes, spice it up and surrender to the one who loves you. They are not the enemy or the cause of your anxiety… They are however, a way for you to successfully escape the circus and enjoy some real loving. Remember orgasms increase your feel good endorphins and you will naturally feel better with a romp between the sheets with a well deserving lover.
  • Enjoy some girl-friend time. Your partner is not a girl-friend and should not be expected to listen to you and converse with you in the same way. Spending time with friends takes you away from the tasks at hand and allows for rejuvenation of a different kind. Make sure the time spent is quality time, not a slagging match of how busy and miserable you are. Go to the movies and have a coffee after to discuss the movie, go for dinner, visit the local market and take a beach swim on the way home, enjoy a home shopping party with a glass of bubbles, pamper each other with facials or massage, play a game, dress up and go dancing…. There are a million things you can do with a girlfriend, you just have to make the call and do it regularly, don’t leave it till it’s too late! The chances are, she needs it too.
  • Prioritise time and tasks. It’s critical that as a working mum or business woman that you have a list of priorities and YOU are number one. If you let yourself go on with such speed and neglect your own pampering, everything else will go to shit also. You know it, right? This is the ripple effect!

The most important thing to remember is to read the signs, understand your own body, before they kick in, have a game plan to take time out. You should be planning one of these activities each week to avoid burnout and have a very well planned schedule to allow for such time, it is essential. There are also a vast selection of practitioners, healers, educators that have so many options to give you that extra boost, make sure you utilise them – you do not have to take this journey on your own. We are here to help you.

One immediate option is a Passion Pop Experience with me… There is nothing like it to spark you back to your passionate self…

That is also why we have planned The Ultimate Ladies Expo – because we recognise the need for women to take time out. We understand the staggering statistics on mental health and well being and we want to make a difference and show you how fun looking after yourself can be.

We start from the inside, clearing what gets in the way and give you options for moving forward with confidence and pride.  We hope you can join us for what is going to be Australia’s Biggest Pamper Party!

Brisbane first, then Australia…. Are you in?

Tickets can be purchased from; http://topsecretwomensbusiness.com/events/ladies-pamper-expo-tm/

Yours Real and Raw,

Janelle Manton

CEO, Top Secret Women’s Business Pty. Ltd

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    1. Really good article Janelle!!! 🙂 Well worth the time to read!

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