The Collision Course Called Love!

When love strikes, it can hit like a freight train… In my experience, there are two types of freight trains; the kind that slowly builds up momentum and speed and keeps a steady course all the way till it reaches its final destination. Then you have the kind of freight train that stops every now and then, drops off a load, picks up new stuff but keeps on chugging long…

Trains can’t come to a full stop in an instant; they take between 1-2 kilometres to actually come to a full halt. They have to brake slowly, gently easing into a stop and with so much weight behind them; inertia alone is enough to keep them going for some time.  Love is a lot like a freight train, two souls steaming toward each other at different speeds, hoping they reach the destination at the same time.

My Dad was a train driver so I understand the intricacies of train driving, having grown up with them and I know all too well the dangers that can lie ahead if you are not watching.  In 42 years in the railways, my dad had 2 suicides jump in front of his trains; it seems that they too knew the power a train has and that it simply can’t stop right away.  And I would bet that if those two lost souls could be asked why they jumped, it would have something to do with love or the lack of it…

Love can come in all shapes and sizes, for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Sometimes love lasts forever and other times it’s a fleeting moment in time, like in the movie “Bridges of Madison County”, one woman forgoes her lover for a life of honouring her husband and family… But she never stopped loving the travelling photographer, knowing they had loved once, was enough.

One of the wonderful things I adore about love is how it can come to you in so many ways, I’m sure you’ve heard a friend tell you ‘how she met her new boyfriend’?  Sometimes it happen when you least expect it, it can just creep up on you and all you have to do is say YES!

For some, saying yes is a big challenge; it means surrendering and feeling vulnerable. It means giving something up or it provokes memories of a time when love did not last, and that brings about hurt and pain. The force of love can take you to the depths of your deepest fears, directly into a collision course with your consciousness and with your newly found loved one (should he arrive at such a time).

What love delivers when you recover from the crash is nothing short of a miracle… Pure heartfelt yearning, openness and a vulnerability that is so pure, it is power and strength unto itself… Pure love is never fully satiated, it yearns always for more depth, more understanding, deeper levels of connection and passion but finds happiness in every moment.

In order for you to feel such love there are a few things that need to happen - whether you have a current partner or not;

1)      Do the necessary work on yourself to clear bad memories that no longer lift you. This could mean getting a coach or seeing a counsellor, working your way to the other side of a painful situation. REalise by changing how you feel and see the world, you can change it.

2)      Most of us have heard of the laws of attraction, so start using it… What you think you create, so start thinking about who you want to bring into your life and perhaps write down what is really important to you

3)      Take good care of yourself, nurture, be gentle, tap right into your feminine energy if you are a woman. For the guys truly sink into the feeling of being a male who is compassionate, caring, patient and most importantly - open to receiving love…

4)      Be the kind of lover, woman or man, you want to attract. If he or she has similar values and beliefs, it’s should be easy… It’s simple enough to say what you want, but are you the ideal match for the person you want? Do you have work to do?

5)      Realise that your potential new love partner is also on a journey and he’s heading your way, just waiting for the right time to collide with you in a synchronistic moment… Because that is what love does, when you least expect it.

Love really is the colliding of two souls ripe for the collision… Now the collision should not have any casualties, in fact, if you are open and honest enough about whom you are and what you want, then it may never have to end. Loves bliss is likely to last a life time with two open, willing to grow together souls.

Love will always meet you where you are at… If you are used to failing in love and are not willing to be a different person next time around, then it’s a likelihood you will get more of the same.

Why do you think women go from one abusive relationship to another? Because they have not done the work within themselves to change what they think they deserve, therefore attracting more of the same. If you want a different outcome, it’s essential to go about the task in a different way… And ask for help if you don’t know how to change.

My coaching programs with women do exactly that, help women to change and ultimately, see themselves as deserving and worthy of the greatest things in life, especially love. When a woman finds strength and reason to celebrate being herself, then the likelihood of colliding with love that lasts is more likely.

When you truly love and cherish yourself, then the channels of love are open and flow freely…

If true love is passing you by, then look in the mirror and be honest about what you see because love starts with one single person and that person is you - loving you!

If you are interested in a course in love and changing your ways, please contact me for a consultation to see if I am the one to help.  I do initial phone interviews with all my clients before we agree to proceed. Email: admin@topsecretwomensbusiness.com and leave you number for me to call you anywhere in the world.

Yours Real and Raw

Janelle Manton

January Bliss Tip

It’s the first week of another year, a great time to indulge in some loving connection and fun while we’re all kicking back and relaxing with loved ones. Whether you are in a cold climate or warm climate right now, it is time to enjoy the loving touch of a warm set of hands caressing your body, soft lips nibbling you, hard body enjoying you….  Connection with a lover is not only good for your body (losing calories, releasing tension and stress) but your mind also gets a fresh rush of feel good endorphins. I urge you to open your mind to your ‘Adventurous’ side and try something new and exciting in loveland….

How awesome will this year be if, on top of your career and success goals, you added some sexy loving goals too?  A healthy dose of sensuality and sexuality can have a direct benefit on your self esteem and confidence, how much more could you use right now?   With a partner or alone, everybody deserves sexy loving fun, so if you are single, this months Bliss Tip is for you too… Get the picture?

SEXUAL MAGIC…. The Power of healing and reclaiming your self confidence by cultivating your sexual magic!

Dear Top Secret Women and gorgeous new friends,

I write this article with the most loving warmth and authenticity that one can give, as it is very close to my heart and what Top Secret Women’s Business (TSWB) is really all about. I urge you to open your mind and your body to receiving this beautiful gift and may you enjoy the tremendous benefits for many, many moons…..

In all my travels, study, research, growth and personal experiences the one thing I know for sure is this: No one can love me more than myself, no one can fulfil my desires more than me, no one else can make me happy like I can, no one can know my body and how it works like I know it myself, no one single person can understand and appreciate my mind like I know it and no one can satiate my wants and needs like I can.

Anything other than this ‘self-fulfilment’ is leaving my happiness and life’s fulfilment in the hands of another – at the risk of being left with unfulfilled expectations and ultimately disappointment and in some cases, a serious blow to self confidence, self esteem and self worth… Making your potential happiness the task and responsibility of another person is not being in control or empowered, it is not being in the driver’s seat and certainly not being the master operator of your life. There is nothing healing about co-dependency and I am here to say, all the answers and the contentment you seek, come from within!

So what does this have to do with sexual magic and your self-confidence? Well, I have always been a very sexual creature, from a young age, intrigued, inspired and with a libido that could put most men on edge, I have been consumed most of my life with trying to understand the powerful attraction to such explosive experiences and desires and am lead here with you… The more I studied and seeked to understand sexual connection, the more I experimented sexually, the more I understood human nature with my coaching back ground, the more I realised the link between sex and self confidence.
There is an intricate spiritual link between you and your sexual self (your sexual magic) and your ability to fully love and be your grounded, gorgeous, confident self.

Right before your very eyes you have the most powerful instrument of healing repressed emotional, old hurts and blocks - by cultivating sexual energy within you… With sexual energy you have the immediate ability to feel incredible love, happiness, joy, self worth, confidence and self esteem. You can put a bounce back in your step, have a positive outlook, you can feel energised and yet relaxed. Sexual energy is the giver of life and the life force energy that promotes an inner connection with your feelings of balance and harmony and a deep sense of spirituality, sexual magic can be healing in the right hands… It is said by Tantric studies that spiritual sexual practices are the gateway to ‘being thy self’.

Let me ask you this… How can you expect another person to love your body if you don’t? How can another person make love to you ‘completely surrendered’, if you have never surrendered to yourself? How can it be possible to fully allow another person into your soul, if you have never connected with yourself to this depth? And how on earth can you expect another person to heal or ‘complete you’ if you have not delved into this possibility yourself?

All of this is possible BY YOURSELF. Imagine a life of fulfilment and completeness by ‘self loving’ practices? Imagine by seeking magical sexual practices with yourself, how deeply moving your lovemaking with another could be? How would your life be different if you had complimentary relationships instead of co-dependent ones? And how would your intimate relationship with your partner improve if you had the kind of sexual confidence that was completely FREE - uninhibited and clear of any past conditioning?

I know from much research and asking many questions regarding sexual freedom, that most women had quite reserved (uncommunicative) relationships with their mothers – me included. Couple that with years of societal conditioning and male dominant societies and you have women in plague proportions, who lack self esteem, confidence, energy and successful relationships. I hope you know, I understand our mothers did the best they could with the resources they had at hand, but this has now got to stop, as it is affecting your future possibilities!

Maybe your mother never spoke openly about sex, menstruation or masturbation… Have you ever considered the impact the lack of sexual openness (by the one woman in the world who was to be your teacher) may have had on you functioning like a confident and successful woman?

The Hite Report on Women Loving Women by Sheri Hite has much to say on this subject as does the book Reclaiming Your Goddess Sexuality by Dr Linda Savage. Both books go to great lengths to articulate the impact and importance an openly communicative relationship with your mother had as a child. Your very intimate sexual experiences and current state of affairs as an adult, could be a reflection of how you really see yourself… Do you really see and feel yourself intimately at all? Do you practise ‘being’ you, with yourself?

Here in lies a great secret…. How far will you go to seek fulfilment in the truest sense of the word?
What I and Top Secret Women’s Business propose is that more women start getting in touch with the more ‘intimate you’, go down the rabbit hole of desire, recharge your own batteries and explore the secrets of your own self loving. Become passionate ladies - with yourself, be romantic with you, care and nurture ALL of your desires, explore your depths and be the master of self giving… it is only then that true peace, confidence, success and self love come fully to you… is only then you will ‘Be thy self’- Magical, Strong, Successful, Sexy, Confident and Fulfilled…..

‘Seek no further, yours is the kingdom of source’.

If you want to discuss this subject in more depth and learn how Top Secret Women’s Business can open your eyes to the magic of sexual confidence, then please do not hesitate to contact me directly.

Keep your eyes open because Top Secret Women’s Business has something in store for you… something VERY TOP SECRET. I look forward to loving you in the future and trust this has been a thought provoking read…. x

Yours, Real and Raw,
Janelle Manton
Director

Women doing it their own way. Pay it forward!!!

Hi dear friends,

I just finished an incredible weekend working on the ‘Breakthrough to Success’ weekend with Chris Howard.  Many of you may know that I am a Master Performance Coach for this organisation and I say with great pride, what a pleasure it is to be part of such an incredible company that values quality contribution and education.

I was fortunate enough to be able to articulate in front of the whole group (of about 800 people) my greatest breakthrough - that being, as a ’single mum’ able to heal and manage my emotional states to the point of feeling gratitude, and the multitude of skills and strategies I’ve learnt and implemented’ to create wealth and a secure income for myself and children.

As a mum doing it on her own, I’ve gone about raising my kids as best I can- like any mother would do. I mean, I’ve just done what I had to do in order to keep my kids safe, fed and with good health. My only goal at one stage in my past, was to get out of the Centrlink circus so I could feel and be independent, so I set about achieving that outcome with massive determination. I was going to do what ever it took to move forward, increase my self esteem and feel personal pride once again….  I had no idea that my ’speaking out’ would have such a huge positive impact on the many mums and other women ‘out there’ doing it on their own.

Over the course of the weekend I was approached by many women, some just wanted to hug me and say thankyou for inspiring them and giving them hope.  Others asked, how did I do it, make it through to the otherside of happiness and success…?

My answer is this:

SELF BELIEF and SELF LOVE - I know I am worthy of such a precious gift
DETERMINATION - I know I deserve more and will stop at nothing to succeed and contribute to my family’s and others happiness
EDUCATION - I knew I needed more, so went after it with serious conviction
COMMITMENT - I knew I needed to decide what I wanted instead, so I made a promise to never stop until I succeed (what ever that means to me)
SUPPORT - I realised I had to surround myself with successful people, so I set about networking and meeting new people who would empower me and hold me to a higher standard
FEROCIOUS COMMITMENT TO MY PERSONAL GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT - I know I will never stop expanding who I am, uncovering my limitations and blasting them away, so I can have more of everything I desire and want…

My journey is far from complete, I believe, once you start on the path to being empowered and inspired, you can never stop, just like you can’t unlearn something you’ve learnt. Once you reach a new paradigm of thinking , I believe you have a natural desire to want more. And so it goes….

If you know a mum who is doing it on her own, then please share this will her, get her tapped into this resource, support her in moving forward by encouraging her involvement. I could never have gotten this far without the help of many incredible people who gave of themselves. I am indebted, grateful and full of love because of the decisions I made sometime ago. I now appreciate the magnitude of my limitlessness…

A few questions to get you thinking about what next:

WHAT WOULD YOU BE DOING IF YOU HAD NO LIMITING BOUNDARIES?

WHAT WOULD IT REALLY TAKE FOR YOU TO GET INSPIRED TO GROW AND MOVE FORWARD?

WHAT WOULD IT TAKE FOR YOU TO TAKE ACTION, RIGHT NOW?

WHAT ARE YOU THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL FOR?

WHAT DO YOU DESERVE THAT YOU DON’T FEEL YOU CURRENTLY HAVE?

HOW LONG ARE YOU GOING TO WAIT TO GET IT? Now is the time!

It’s time to go out into the world and start asking the right questions. Ask for help. Ask someone who is already doing what you want to do to mentor you and assist you in getting a start. Tap into FREE resources, Teleseminars, webinars, eBooks etc. There are plenty of people in the world just waiting to help another…..
All you have to do is decide on what it is you want from now on! Now don’t get me wrong, there is much I had to actually do myself, I was a willing particpant in my personal growth. The journey is not one you can sit back and watch - it requires your full participation.

I am very grateful for this past weekend. I have learnt that I should be speaking out much more often, that my contribution is of great value to many women, especially mothers. Thank you to those men and women who were there walking with me and sometimes holding my hand…..

I will now ‘pay it forward’!!!

I INVITE YOU TO REGISTER FOR MY ‘LOSE THE BITCH, LET’S GET RICH’ Teleseminar next week. It’s totally FREE for you, just because!

Can I ask you to ‘PAY IT FORWARD’ and invite your girlfriends along to join in - it could be just what they need to feel supported, inspired and motivated!

With warm regard and so much love…
Yours, Real and Raw,
Janelle Manton
Director
Top Secret Women’s Business